Dictionary.com defines an introvert as “a person characterized by concern primarily with his or her own thoughts and feelings.” This is quite the opposite of the way introverts are often portrayed in pop culture; we’re not all homebodies with terrible social skills (though I do enjoy a good night in, and my social awkwardness knows no bounds, I still try to disprove this trope whenever given the chance). Still, the summer can be a tough time for those who fit the above description. I myself am more of an autumn girl. Summer, however, is still a great time of year for a variety of reasons: the weather’s nicer, the days are longer, and best of all, most of us have a lot more free time (sorry 9-to-5ers). So here is a guide to getting out of your own head long enough to enjoy the summer.
Get Outside
Whether it’s the beach, a park, nature preserve, or your own backyard, the summer is a perfect time to appreciate the world around you. Go for a walk with a friend, it’s a great informal, uncomplicated way to get together without the anxiety of making real plans. You can even go for a walk by yourself; this is a great opportunity for some introspection or creative brainstorming. Put on some headphones for a nice meditative jaunt in the great outdoors. But not all summertime activities have to be, well, active! The summer is a great time for some serious relaxation, get outside and read a book, listen to some music while you soak up the sun, or just meditate as you look up at that beautiful blue sky (just don’t forget sunscreen).
Almost every single one of my best summer memories has taken place outdoors. Some of the most fun I’ve had has been either on the beach or in someone’s backyard. I once watched fourth of July fireworks huddled under a tree with my family and friends wondering if they could pull off the finale before it began to rain. I’ve gotten some of my best ideas on long walks through the woods with nothing but the Fleet Foxes and my own thoughts. I still laugh at the stories I’ve been told while getting absolutely burnt to a crisp by the setting sun (seriously, sunscreen is no joke).
Make Some Memories
Go on a fun, summery outing with some family or friends; even introverts like to have fun. Outdoor concerts/performances, water/theme parks, carnivals/fairs, or a simple backyard barbecue are some excellent ways to enjoy a summer you’ll never forget. Remember also that having fun doesn’t have to break the bank. Many towns organize free, local events during the summer. All you have to do is show up! If this is all too overwhelming, try to plan the events yourself. This way you’re in control of your environment and can ensure you’ll be comfortable in the setting while still having fun with friends.
All the times that I have planned events such as these myself, nobody involved has been disappointed! Sure they never went totally according to plan, but if you did it right and are having enough fun, it really shouldn’t bother you. Can having fun be exhausting? Absolutely. Don’t feel obligated to make memories every night of the summer, that would burn anyone out. Some summer nights are perfect to enjoy some Netflix and air conditioning.
Get Some Face Time
Introverts can be solitary creatures. Their major concerns are what’s going on in their own lives and their own heads. This doesn’t mean they don’t want or don’t have friends. Introverts are very thoughtful people, and we like to share these thoughts and hear other’s thoughts. So this summer, I suggest you try to have as many heart-to-heart conversations as you can. This can be with new friends, it will help you become better acquainted, make a deeper connection, and establish a level of comfort on both ends. You can also have this conversation with an old friend, rekindle your relationship, and reaffirm the deep connection that originally brought you together. Spend some time with your family too, and make a big deal of it. Plan a family outing or a fun night in, get everyone together to make a big dinner or have a game night. Just be sure to get in some of that precious face time!
I can’t stress enough how great this actually feels. Sure, putting yourself out there can be intimidating, even with people you know, but there’s a good chance the other person has been craving this conversation as much as you have. Doing this will make an impression not only on your summer memories, but the people in your live’s memories as well.
Preserve the Memories
Start a journal or a blog (like me!) Take lots of pictures, make a photo album, or start an Instagram account. Make a playlist of all your favorite songs from that summer or songs that will remind you of these different events. Just keep track of all the great times you’ve had this season and keep them handy so you can look back on them for years to come.
Trust me when I say there is nothing more transportive than looking through old pictures, or writing, or hearing that one song you played on a loop all summer.
Lastly, Enjoy Yourself
While some of these suggestions may force you out of your comfort zone, or even sound a little cliche… a well enjoyed summer will allow you to appreciate your wintery, indoor solitude that much more.
Until next time…